This week we revisit wedding etiquette. Here are answers to three uncommon wedding etiquette questions. The answers may surprise you!
The reason why I consider this question “uncommon” is because you shouldn't even have to ask. Yes! You need to feed the band. It’s common courtesy to feed all of your vendors working at your wedding reception. They work long hours to ensure you have a fabulous wedding, and all that work can make a person hungry. This includes the DJ, photographer (and assistant!), all members of the band, and the wedding planner. Confirm the number of vendor meals with your caterer when the final meal count is given. Most vendors will require a meal as part of their contract, and the caterer may offer a discounted “vendor meal”.
2. My friend assumes she is going to be in my wedding party because I was a bridesmaid in her wedding. Am I obligated to have someone be a part of my wedding party because I was a part of hers?
Be prepared. This can be touchy and feelings may get hurt, but you are not required to have anyone be apart of your wedding party (regardless of whether or not you we are part of theirs). Maybe your reason is because you want an intimate affair, or you have a ton of siblings and relatives that you would like to include. Whatever the reason, tread lightly with your friend. A nice gesture is to have her be a part of your wedding in a different way - like reading a poem or giving a speech.
3. I already know that a potential wedding guest is unable to attend our wedding. Do we still need to send an invitation?
No. You do not need to send a formal invitation, if someone has already let you know that they cannot attend your wedding. However, if the person is a close friend or family member, you may want to send an invite, anyway. Be sure to let them know that you sent the invitation along as a keepsake, so they don’t assume you're fishing for a gift.