This week we
revisit wedding etiquette. Here
are answers to three uncommon wedding etiquette questions. The answers may surprise you!
1.
Do I need to feed the band?
The reason
why I consider this question “uncommon” is because you shouldn't even have to ask. Yes!
You need to feed the band. It’s
common courtesy to feed all of your vendors working at your wedding
reception. They work long
hours to ensure you have a fabulous wedding, and all that work can make a
person hungry. This includes the
DJ, photographer (and assistant!), all members of the band, and the wedding
planner. Confirm the number of
vendor meals with your caterer when the final meal count is given. Most vendors will require a meal as
part of their contract, and the caterer may offer a discounted “vendor meal”.
2. My friend assumes she is going to be in my wedding party because I was a bridesmaid in her wedding. Am I
obligated to have someone be a part of my wedding party because I was a part of
hers?
Be prepared.
This can be touchy and feelings may get hurt, but you are not required to have anyone be apart of
your wedding party (regardless of whether or not you we are part of
theirs). Maybe your reason is
because you want an intimate affair, or you have a ton of siblings and relatives
that you would like to include. Whatever the reason, tread lightly with your friend. A nice gesture is to have her be
a part of your wedding in a different way - like reading a poem or giving a
speech.
3. I already know that a potential wedding guest is
unable to attend our wedding. Do
we still need to send an invitation?
No. You do
not need to send a formal invitation, if someone has already let you know that
they cannot attend your wedding. However, if the person is a close friend or family member, you may want to send
an invite, anyway. Be sure to let
them know that you sent the invitation along as a keepsake, so they don’t
assume you're fishing for a gift.
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